So... let's start at the beginning so you can understand why this is entitled "The Surprise Pregnancy."
My husband David and I met in November of 2004 at church. I thought he was hot and smart and very cool to talk to. He also had an amazing singing voice. He didn't even notice me. Skip ahead to March of 2005 and David finally asked me out. We were a perfect match. We were engaged by July of 2005 but waited until July 7, 2007 (7-7-7) to say our vows at the church where we met. Skip ahead to July of 2008, I convinced my husband that we should try to start having a family. This is where it gets good.
No, not THAT kind of good. This is not a porn site, sicko!
We tried to get pregnant all of 2008 without any luck. In 2009, I knew we were going to get pregnant, so I studied Natural Family Planning, I bought a fertility monitor, and I set myself to the task of "make a baby." 2009 passed without any success. At this point, my husband and my relationship really started to feel the strain. Our sex life was now timed and we both felt like failures. How come I was pregnant yet? It didn't help that I taught middle school and saw 8th graders (yes 8th graders) pregnant every year.
Finally, my friend Gina suggested we try a different doctor. This doctor took one look at my labs and my history and said "we are going to the next step." The next step involved LOTS of tests. At the end of these tests, we found out we had "unexplained infertility." Remember that term, "unexplained infertility." The next step was a fertility doctor. We waited until May of 2010 to meet with him because I needed a break from all the drama. At this point, we have been trying to get pregnant for nearly two years. The doctor walked in and said, "We are going aggressive." So that month, I began fertility drugs and at the beginning of June, I had an IUI, intrauterine insemination. Right before Father's Day, I had a confirmed pregnancy. It was the best feeling in the world.
Of course my pregnancy was dramatic with pre-term labor, bed rest and preecampsia, but that's for another blog. On January 27, 2011, one month earlier than expected, I gave birth via c-section to a beautiful and healthy little boy. He is the apple of our eyes and completed a hole in our family. We were now a family. We love him so much. Skip ahead to November of 2011. My husband and I begin to talk about having another baby. We wanted a large family (3-5 kids depending when you ask us) and I was getting up there. Okay, I'm 29 but 35 is really not that far away when you think about it. We decided that the summer would be a great time to get pregnant, especially since we had a trip planned to South Dakota in July. Still, we knew about our fertility issues, so we were sure we needed help. Most fertility doctors wont see you for the second round unless you have tried for 6 months. So, David and I decided to try in December.
Okay, "try" is really not the word to use. We made love a couple of times around my fertile time. I have this fun app on my iPhone called iPeriod. It's awesome, it tracks all your periods, calculates possible fertile days, and even lets you know when to expect your next period based on your past history. It highlights fertile days in green, we missed these days.
In the mean time, my son is going to a blood clinic because he was extremely anemic, again another blog. We knew he had iron deficiency anemia, but he also has a blood disorder called Thalassemia minor. His case is not severe, most people go through their whole lives without knowing they have it, but severe cases cause early death. So David and I decided to stop trying until we knew our chances of having a child with Thalassemia major.
Skip ahead to January of 2012, I start noticing that I'm getting dizzy at work. Yuck. I notice that I feel sick. Yuck. I notice my period is 3 days late. Wait a minute.
Now, I know I have fertility problems, so before you all start going "Oh" at me, know this. I TRIED FOR TWO YEARS TO GET PREGNANT! Two years!
The weekend comes and I settle into a well spent time of playing with the baby. As I'm crawling after him on the floor to his utter delight, a wave of nausea hits me so bad I just curl up on the floor. I bang on the couch closest to me and my husband comes running over. He figures out I'm about to toss my cookies, so he runs for something to help me. After this rather embarrassing interlude, I look up at my husband and say "When do I take a pregnancy test?!"
Now, again, my husband and I have fertility problems.
At midnight, I'm still up and hanging out with my husband. I'm about to go to bed, but nature is calling as well. I decide to check if I have a pregnancy test in my cabinet. I have one and it's old school. It's the one that makes a + if you're pregnant and - if you're not. So I figure, just take it and go to bed. Now I have my fair share of pregnancy tests, so I know the score. I'm holding the pregnancy stick in my hand and watching the blue stain cross the circle. As I'm watching I notice the - start to show, but I also notice a | start to show up as well. I'm staring at it thinking, "Is this a light trick? Are my eyes seeing something that isn't there?" I keep staring and watch as the - begins to darken into a big old +. I run out of the bathroom yelling for David. He's still sitting in the chair, looking at me holding this pregnancy test. He asks, "what?" I yelled, "Come here." He saunters over, takes one look at that big old + sign and gives me a hug. What do I do? Put my shoes on and head over to the closest Walmart and buy me some digital tests. I want a test to say "pregnant" not "+".
Flash forward to January 9th. Three days and three pregnancy tests later, I have come to the realization that my son is going to be a big brother. I must pause here so I don't cry. Turns out "unexplained infertility," doesn't mean they don't know what's wrong, it means nothing is wrong. There was no reason David and I couldn't get pregnant, so there is no reason why we couldn't get pregnant again. After two years of trying and fertility treatments with my son, I get pregnant on the first try with the next one.
Surprise, it's a new Busby!
Due September 13, 2012
Awww...loving that new Busby already! Get ready, your life is over...ha! You knew I was going to say that! ;)
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